Facebook Etiquette, When To Unfriend, Unfollow

November 27, 2015

Facebook Etiquette, when to unfriend, unfollow

Reasons to Unfriend

  • Offensive behavior – Lewd comments and no boundaries, insulting remarks to you personally or others, prejudice, bigotry, posting inflammatory/dishonest information.

    Example of an inflammatory Facebook Post

    To the right is an example of an inflammatory Facebook post whereby the poster is making many generalizations, most inaccurate and divisive

  • Flaming friends in the comments streams of your posts or allowing others in your posts to flame yourself or friends while the so-called friend watches on.
    Flaming = heated / disrespectful confrontation.
    Example, allowing another or personally attacking you with rude remarks such as calling you an “idiot”, “tin foil hat wearing clown”, “denier”, etc.; often as a result of not being able to address factual/referenced information in a discussion
  • Marginalizing your access to his or her wall. This is when a friend sets her privacy settings to exclude certain people from posting on her wall. The wall is open to some of her friends – and you can see their posts, but not open to you. There is no place for posting on her wall. You’re on her “B” list.

    Sometimes these persons who post inflammatory/dishonest information and know that you will not let them get away with miss-information will do this, or they will simply un-friend you. Sometimes unfriending can be an accident, so giving a person a chance by asking again to be a friend can determine this, but if they do not respond and they are a person that posts inflammatory/dishonest information, they are not really person you likely should associate with anyway.

We all might post something that is not respectful to our friends, so the occasional mistake is not what we are saying here. As well, a true friend will often acknowledge such mistakes and remove such posts.
Otherwise, if this behavior is common, the above are hardly friends.

Worse if they claim to be Christians, it is best to not associate with such persons:
Titus 3:10- “Warn a divisive person once, and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them”
Romans 16:17- “I urge you, brothers and sisters, to watch out for those who cause divisions and put obstacles in your way that are contrary to the teaching you have learned. Keep away from them”

Reasons to Hide or Unfollow (not necessarily un-friend)

  • Direct selling or “Me-Centric” FB behavior – only pushes a product or agenda on Facebook with no personal interaction.
    I personally make posts about my businesses, but I also like and share others business postings as well (in fact I share and like probably 20 post from others to every one for me).
    It is rather “Me-Centric” to share your world, but to refuse to be a friend and not at least look at others posts and like/share occasionally, especially if part of their livelihood is based on social media driven traffic (which our professional world is more and more dependent upon nowadays)
  • Posting controversial information that is often half-truths or even blatantly false.
    Then when called out on this, refusing to read reputable information (that is not from far right or far left sources) showing why this was wrong.
  • One Topic Poster – preachy types that only post about one particular cause – animal cruelty, support our troops, Obama is Satan, We love Obama, religion, atheism, or just non-stop pictures of one’s dog (or cat, or kid). We all do some of this, but the One-topic Poster ONLY posts about the cause.
  • Constant Memer – This person posts 5 to 10 Memes a day … over and over. They never saw a Meme they didn’t like. (Memes are those funny little cards, graphics, videos with humerous messages embedded that are created to be shared).


Consequenses of Defriending or Unfriending on Facebook

My Professional Facebook Pages:

American Aquarium Products & Information on Facebook
Aquarium/Pond Answers on Facebook

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Facebook Advertising; Dishonest Epic Fail

November 27, 2012

Facebook Advertising, Dishonest Epic FailUpdated 12-9-15

Facebook is clearly a company run my politically correct narcissists, this can be seen in both their business practices and in what they allow and think makes for “good community guidelines”.

This company will allow hate, bullying, even Terrorist supporters (until forced to take down due to political pressure).
On December 8, FB removed a well stated post quoting previous Israel Prime Minister Golda Meir while leaving anti-semitic hate speech.
Reference: Facebook vs Golda

Update 12-8-15

Again Facebook is playing games with their 20% so called text rule, which frankly how much text we place in an Ad is our business, not theirs!!
Either way, our picture person is well aware of this and we spent some time working on a new campaign and measurements showed 12% text, well under their Gestapo like 20% rule.
Yet the Ad never ran!!
Emails and questions in their forum went unanswered and finally I got an answer in Chat and while no one bothered to communicate, some snot nosed brat at FB decided this picture had 28%, which is simply a lie, see for yourself:

Facebook Advertising Fail

Original Post:
Our business gave Facebook Advertising a try for 5 days.

On the plus side, we got quite a few new likes for our business Facebook Page.
See: Facebook; American Aquarium Products

However we have yet to track a sale from all these new “likes”.
This though is not a problem, as we are still hopeful that this can result in re-posts on Facebook that will result in persons reading our large library of articles (such as TMC Aquarium UV Sterilizer Review) then eventually a sale.

Aquarium, fish Information Articles
TMC Vecton, Pond Advantage UV Sterilizer Review


Please also reference this article which further displays the failure Facebook and other social media is for promoting a business:
The Fraud Social Media is for Web Traffic, SEO

Our complaints are threefold:

(1) We set our Facebook Ads to only run in the USA/Canada, yet we had “likes” from Iran and many other such locations that we do not even do business with, so this is a waste of our time AND our money.
Facebook has yet to address this in our emails, we only get canned responses.

(2) We clearly set our Ad for 5 days, which Facebook’s own statistics show, yet out of the blue Facebook charges us another day a week after our Ads were paused.
We also found our setting were changed (not by us) for a much higher daily budget (ten times our initial daily budget).
Both of these actions constitute fraud by Facebook

In the end, our business credit card awarded our money back, as they too acknowledged the evidence we produced proved our points.

(3) Facebook’s customer service is AWFUL!
While admittedly we too use a few canned responses to help with certain emails, we still address any issue a customer sends us via email.
Facebook on the other hand hides behind this internet screen and has absolutely no customer service. No matter how we word our emails and give them statistics, we get the same lame canned response that never addresses the issues (nor have they refunded the over charge)

We have also attempted to reach out directly to their advertising department in Oct. of 2013, to help create an advertising campaign.
Outside of an initial response from Erica Mitchell (emitchell@sales.fb.com), we have yet to get an answer to any direct query to set up a satisfactory advertising campaign via Facebook

We decided once more in December of 2013 to promote a post after taking the bait from Facebook on an excellent newsletter post we made.
What happened? Facebook disallowed the post because the picture had too much text in it?
REALLY Facebook?
This was an excellent picture that an employee spent days on.

Of course as usual, Facebook has yet to answer emails about this scam (they charged us too)


What is Facebook?
Obviously it is a company run by snot nosed brat children that have no knowledge of marketing, and most importantly customer service.
20 years ago, an advertising company would not get away with the horrible customer service, poor results, and insulting of clients by disallowing good marketing campaigns.
Sadly we live in a different world today

While our company might be “small potatoes”, we were seriously measuring our Ad results and planning to resume our Ad campaign, but after this we had to close/delete our Ad just to stop any future false charges.

After this I know now why Facebooks IPO was such a failure, and while Facebook stock is starting to show some recovery (as of this blog post), once investors know what an epic fail Facebook Advertising is, this stock will likely fall even more.

Sadly though, from my personal dealings with certain brokerages, many do not do their homework. But I do know that I will make sure that my Mutual Funds in my retirement portfolio contain no Facebook stock and if later added I will divest of this awful company.
Mark Zuckerberg, the founder of Facebook is a person with little business sense, and while he might fool some, his treatment of many Facebook users and small business is typical of his world view.

Rude & Narcissistic Behavior, No Boundaries; Pervasive Liberal Democrat World View

November 8, 2011

Rude, Clueless Democrats, Occupy Movement, JackassUpdated 7-5-13

Based on emails, phone calls, forums, YouTube, Facebook; Rude, Condescending, narcissistic, or simply behavior without any respect for others boundaries are at an all time high.

Why?? I can only guess, but I can certainly put forth a few FACTS that one might draw conclusions from.

First though I will briefly mention what I am referring to;
I receive many “communications” from customers and non customers asking for help with certain aquatic problems, many of these persons are otherwise friendly persons.
HOWEVER often certain persons have no boundaries when comes to others time and even though I respond to initial emails 16 hours per day, certain persons will take advantage (or attempt to) of my help by refusing to read the plethora of researched aquatic information I provide to back up and provide further information to their questions, in other words to help them help themselves.

The result is further question after question, even though the article I suggested reading contains answers to these continued questions.
Worse though is when I tell these persons that I have no spent copious amounts of time I do no have (often during my little amount of family time), they actually get angry!.

A common reply is “I do not have time to read your articles”.
In there minds, my time counts for nothing?

What about my time I spent researching along with the 30 plus years that has gone into these article that are provided free of charge (no need to go to Amazon and purchase a book that is likely very much out of date and anecdotal on the subject)?
This is just one common example.

Although thankfully not a daily occurrence, but downright rude emails still occur with regularity where we provide a plethora of information, documentation, cite references, etc., YET these persons still feel the need to challenge our/my responses in very condescending and rude manners.
Aquarium Lighting & correct UV Bulb replacement are common subjects of these persons.

Sometimes these persons demand we not follow the business practices we installed in 2009 after suffering through years of no profit and losses as we were attempting to be everything to everyone. In other words run our business as these demanding persons see fit.
So most of our time was in email and phone calls. The result was losses that we are still paying back to this day in loans we had to take out.
Bluntly these persons have no right to tell me or anyone else how to run my business and especially in ways we know result in losses just so to be someone’s personal answer person at no charge.

Other issues are forums especially local (which I no longer waste my time on) ignoring what I have to say.
Facebook is a place where narcissism & myopic behavior runs amuck even among otherwise “nice” persons.

I follow others posts when time allows (for this reason I try and keep my friends lists short).
Yet anything I post often updating my life’s work (which also is what pays the bills and hopefully will dig us out of the hole I have been in since being forced to move to Oregon in 2002), it is never read, “liked”, etc. but for one or two persons.

Even my niece refused to ever “peek” at any of my posts, yet were on constantly posting about her adventures.
What ever happened to looking out for each other?
I know that search engines rank these likes, so being in an online business it is important to me and it would simply be nice to have such favors returned once in a while.

Another example is a friend, who I continually like and share “stuff” for her business, and have backed at every corner, also no longer ever returns the favor, it is always all about her.
However since this boils down to a relatively minor issue compared to the above emails & phone calls; I simply do not give much credence to Facebook or go on much more that to to say happy birthday.

What are the Causes?

While the causes of this pervasive rudeness, lack of boundaries, and extreme narcissism are speculation (subjective), the facts that support this are not and are in fact objective.

So what I will give are a list of FACTS and let readers mostly draw their own conclusions.

(1)FACT; when tracking these rude and clueless (without boundaries) persons via name or any other identification to web sites such Facebook or Blogs; what I (& others) have found that over 85% display very liberal or extreme libertarian political views.
Even among the other slightly less than 15% with more so called “conservative” views who are rude, often proclaim an Evangelical religious view point.

(2)FACT: .gov and .edu emails address make up a disproportionate percentage of these before mentioned emails.
While these two email suffixes are well under 5% of are general emails (of which we receive 100s counting sales), these two suffixes make up nearly 20% of rude, & narcissistic emails

(3)FACT: When you go to liberal enclaves, especially YouTube; you will find that most of the of the insulting language and support for strange causes comes from these liberals or libertarians (such as Truthers of supporters of the Occupy movement).
As well when my videos for my business get rude or condescending remarks (that I usually delete), I look at the persons YouTube account that made such comments and sure enough in almost every instance I find a person with far left Michel Moore or “Truther” type views.

UPDATE 9/10/12

I had another demanding and clueless liberal attack me in my aquarium help email (mind you all the information was/is free), but this guy guy got demanding and insulting so I “Cut him off”, and this triggered even more demands and hate from this vial liberal.
BTW, I know his views based on statements by him, and research of him on the internet.

Here are just a few quotes from this vial/hateful liberal (he even attacked my family):
” my best suggestion to you would be……don’t have a large family if you cannot afford a bigger house”
“I could care less whether or not you make a profit on any particular transaction.”
“I have a life, as for you…..get a life!”

Interesting how I am to “get a life” when he was the one constantly demanding free help and more from me!! Typical hateful Occupier mentality!

A few Subjective Observations based on these and much of what I have seen/witnessed in life

  • With the most Narcissistic President in history along with places such as Twitter and Facebook that also champion Narcissism, I believe this to be expected.

    See: List of Obama Failures

  • Dishonest News Media.
    This same media has been able to convince many that Democrats are for the “working man” well this could not be any further from the truth other than “country Club Republicans (RINOs) also are not at all for the working man either.
    Democrat leaders seem to be only for those who blame others for their problems work the “working union man”, while Libertarians seem to think everyone is out to get them.

    As well the news media has done a good job of ignoring the facts of who the true major political contributors are, with the result being most in America falsely believe the Republicans receive the top contributions.
    See: Democrats Receive 89 Percent of Donations Made by Four Top Political Donors

  • Occupy Movement; that amount of disinformation that persons believe from this mob (mostly of thugs, but sadly made of up many “good persons” that are so woefully unwise as to the facts of business finance and much more about life and believe anything the left leaning media tells them)
  • YouTube; there is probably no more better forum for sleaze other the owner of YouTube; GOOGLE which is a corporation that would not know honestly if it hit them in the face with their rampant plagiarism of small businesses and small entrepreneurs.
    See: Google Lies, Dishonesty, Plagiarism; Adsense, Adwords & Google Search Fail

    Facebook owner Mark Zuckerberg, is another example of a condescending narcissist

  • The education system itself which although many will disagree, it is over paid in my view based on “market value” of the work they do.
    Tenure is the primary evil as I have seen the good teachers that were not tenured let go at our local schools
    As well, going back to my school days I had a downright evil teacher put me down in class in the 4th grade only to have this ridicule follow me to my High School Graduation. She should never been allowed to teach and had she worked in the private sector she would have been fired immediately.

This are just a few opinions of mine, others may draw different conclusions, however the facts noted earlier speak for themselves

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