Based on emails, phone calls, forums, YouTube, Facebook; Rude, Condescending, narcissistic, or simply behavior without any respect for others boundaries are at an all time high.
Why?? I can only guess, but I can certainly put forth a few FACTS that one might draw conclusions from.
First though I will briefly mention what I am referring to;
I receive many “communications” from customers and non customers asking for help with certain aquatic problems, many of these persons are otherwise friendly persons.
HOWEVER often certain persons have no boundaries when comes to others time and even though I respond to initial emails 16 hours per day, certain persons will take advantage (or attempt to) of my help by refusing to read the plethora of researched aquatic information I provide to back up and provide further information to their questions, in other words to help them help themselves.
The result is further question after question, even though the article I suggested reading contains answers to these continued questions.
Worse though is when I tell these persons that I have no spent copious amounts of time I do no have (often during my little amount of family time), they actually get angry!.
A common reply is “I do not have time to read your articles”.
In there minds, my time counts for nothing?
What about my time I spent researching along with the 30 plus years that has gone into these article that are provided free of charge (no need to go to Amazon and purchase a book that is likely very much out of date and anecdotal on the subject)?
This is just one common example.
Although thankfully not a daily occurrence, but downright rude emails still occur with regularity where we provide a plethora of information, documentation, cite references, etc., YET these persons still feel the need to challenge our/my responses in very condescending and rude manners.
Aquarium Lighting & correct UV Bulb replacement are common subjects of these persons.
Sometimes these persons demand we not follow the business practices we installed in 2009 after suffering through years of no profit and losses as we were attempting to be everything to everyone. In other words run our business as these demanding persons see fit.
So most of our time was in email and phone calls. The result was losses that we are still paying back to this day in loans we had to take out.
Bluntly these persons have no right to tell me or anyone else how to run my business and especially in ways we know result in losses just so to be someone’s personal answer person at no charge.
Other issues are forums especially local (which I no longer waste my time on) ignoring what I have to say.
Facebook is a place where narcissism & myopic behavior runs amuck even among otherwise “nice” persons.
I follow others posts when time allows (for this reason I try and keep my friends lists short).
Yet anything I post often updating my life’s work (which also is what pays the bills and hopefully will dig us out of the hole I have been in since being forced to move to Oregon in 2002), it is never read, “liked”, etc. but for one or two persons.
Even my niece refused to ever “peek” at any of my posts, yet were on constantly posting about her adventures.
What ever happened to looking out for each other?
I know that search engines rank these likes, so being in an online business it is important to me and it would simply be nice to have such favors returned once in a while.
Another example is a friend, who I continually like and share “stuff” for her business, and have backed at every corner, also no longer ever returns the favor, it is always all about her.
However since this boils down to a relatively minor issue compared to the above emails & phone calls; I simply do not give much credence to Facebook or go on much more that to to say happy birthday.
What are the Causes?
While the causes of this pervasive rudeness, lack of boundaries, and extreme narcissism are speculation (subjective), the facts that support this are not and are in fact objective.
So what I will give are a list of FACTS and let readers mostly draw their own conclusions.
(1)FACT; when tracking these rude and clueless (without boundaries) persons via name or any other identification to web sites such Facebook or Blogs; what I (& others) have found that over 85% display very liberal or extreme libertarian political views.
Even among the other slightly less than 15% with more so called “conservative” views who are rude, often proclaim an Evangelical religious view point.
(2)FACT: .gov and .edu emails address make up a disproportionate percentage of these before mentioned emails.
While these two email suffixes are well under 5% of are general emails (of which we receive 100s counting sales), these two suffixes make up nearly 20% of rude, & narcissistic emails
(3)FACT: When you go to liberal enclaves, especially YouTube; you will find that most of the of the insulting language and support for strange causes comes from these liberals or libertarians (such as Truthers of supporters of the Occupy movement).
As well when my videos for my business get rude or condescending remarks (that I usually delete), I look at the persons YouTube account that made such comments and sure enough in almost every instance I find a person with far left Michel Moore or “Truther” type views.
I had another demanding and clueless liberal attack me in my aquarium help email (mind you all the information was/is free), but this guy guy got demanding and insulting so I “Cut him off”, and this triggered even more demands and hate from this vial liberal.
Here are just a few quotes from this vial/hateful liberal (he even attacked my family):
Interesting how I am to “get a life” when he was the one constantly demanding free help and more from me!! Typical hateful Occupier mentality!
A few Subjective Observations based on these and much of what I have seen/witnessed in life
- With the most Narcissistic President in history along with places such as Twitter and Facebook that also champion Narcissism, I believe this to be expected.
- Dishonest News Media.
This same media has been able to convince many that Democrats are for the “working man” well this could not be any further from the truth other than “country Club Republicans (RINOs) also are not at all for the working man either.
Democrat leaders seem to be only for those who blame others for their problems work the “working union man”, while Libertarians seem to think everyone is out to get them.
As well the news media has done a good job of ignoring the facts of who the true major political contributors are, with the result being most in America falsely believe the Republicans receive the top contributions.
See: Democrats Receive 89 Percent of Donations Made by Four Top Political Donors
- Occupy Movement; that amount of disinformation that persons believe from this mob (mostly of thugs, but sadly made of up many “good persons” that are so woefully unwise as to the facts of business finance and much more about life and believe anything the left leaning media tells them)
- YouTube; there is probably no more better forum for sleaze other the owner of YouTube; GOOGLE which is a corporation that would not know honestly if it hit them in the face with their rampant plagiarism of small businesses and small entrepreneurs.
See: Google Lies, Dishonesty, Plagiarism; Adsense, Adwords & Google Search Fail
Facebook owner Mark Zuckerberg, is another example of a condescending narcissist
- The education system itself which although many will disagree, it is over paid in my view based on “market value” of the work they do.
Tenure is the primary evil as I have seen the good teachers that were not tenured let go at our local schools
As well, going back to my school days I had a downright evil teacher put me down in class in the 4th grade only to have this ridicule follow me to my High School Graduation. She should never been allowed to teach and had she worked in the private sector she would have been fired immediately.
This are just a few opinions of mine, others may draw different conclusions, however the facts noted earlier speak for themselves
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