Rude & Narcissistic Behavior, No Boundaries; Pervasive Liberal Democrat World View

November 8, 2011

Rude, Clueless Democrats, Occupy Movement, JackassUpdated 7-5-13

Based on emails, phone calls, forums, YouTube, Facebook; Rude, Condescending, narcissistic, or simply behavior without any respect for others boundaries are at an all time high.

Why?? I can only guess, but I can certainly put forth a few FACTS that one might draw conclusions from.

First though I will briefly mention what I am referring to;
I receive many “communications” from customers and non customers asking for help with certain aquatic problems, many of these persons are otherwise friendly persons.
HOWEVER often certain persons have no boundaries when comes to others time and even though I respond to initial emails 16 hours per day, certain persons will take advantage (or attempt to) of my help by refusing to read the plethora of researched aquatic information I provide to back up and provide further information to their questions, in other words to help them help themselves.

The result is further question after question, even though the article I suggested reading contains answers to these continued questions.
Worse though is when I tell these persons that I have no spent copious amounts of time I do no have (often during my little amount of family time), they actually get angry!.

A common reply is “I do not have time to read your articles”.
In there minds, my time counts for nothing?

What about my time I spent researching along with the 30 plus years that has gone into these article that are provided free of charge (no need to go to Amazon and purchase a book that is likely very much out of date and anecdotal on the subject)?
This is just one common example.

Although thankfully not a daily occurrence, but downright rude emails still occur with regularity where we provide a plethora of information, documentation, cite references, etc., YET these persons still feel the need to challenge our/my responses in very condescending and rude manners.
Aquarium Lighting & correct UV Bulb replacement are common subjects of these persons.

Sometimes these persons demand we not follow the business practices we installed in 2009 after suffering through years of no profit and losses as we were attempting to be everything to everyone. In other words run our business as these demanding persons see fit.
So most of our time was in email and phone calls. The result was losses that we are still paying back to this day in loans we had to take out.
Bluntly these persons have no right to tell me or anyone else how to run my business and especially in ways we know result in losses just so to be someone’s personal answer person at no charge.

Other issues are forums especially local (which I no longer waste my time on) ignoring what I have to say.
Facebook is a place where narcissism & myopic behavior runs amuck even among otherwise “nice” persons.

I follow others posts when time allows (for this reason I try and keep my friends lists short).
Yet anything I post often updating my life’s work (which also is what pays the bills and hopefully will dig us out of the hole I have been in since being forced to move to Oregon in 2002), it is never read, “liked”, etc. but for one or two persons.

Even my niece refused to ever “peek” at any of my posts, yet were on constantly posting about her adventures.
What ever happened to looking out for each other?
I know that search engines rank these likes, so being in an online business it is important to me and it would simply be nice to have such favors returned once in a while.

Another example is a friend, who I continually like and share “stuff” for her business, and have backed at every corner, also no longer ever returns the favor, it is always all about her.
However since this boils down to a relatively minor issue compared to the above emails & phone calls; I simply do not give much credence to Facebook or go on much more that to to say happy birthday.

What are the Causes?

While the causes of this pervasive rudeness, lack of boundaries, and extreme narcissism are speculation (subjective), the facts that support this are not and are in fact objective.

So what I will give are a list of FACTS and let readers mostly draw their own conclusions.

(1)FACT; when tracking these rude and clueless (without boundaries) persons via name or any other identification to web sites such Facebook or Blogs; what I (& others) have found that over 85% display very liberal or extreme libertarian political views.
Even among the other slightly less than 15% with more so called “conservative” views who are rude, often proclaim an Evangelical religious view point.

(2)FACT: .gov and .edu emails address make up a disproportionate percentage of these before mentioned emails.
While these two email suffixes are well under 5% of are general emails (of which we receive 100s counting sales), these two suffixes make up nearly 20% of rude, & narcissistic emails

(3)FACT: When you go to liberal enclaves, especially YouTube; you will find that most of the of the insulting language and support for strange causes comes from these liberals or libertarians (such as Truthers of supporters of the Occupy movement).
As well when my videos for my business get rude or condescending remarks (that I usually delete), I look at the persons YouTube account that made such comments and sure enough in almost every instance I find a person with far left Michel Moore or “Truther” type views.

UPDATE 9/10/12

I had another demanding and clueless liberal attack me in my aquarium help email (mind you all the information was/is free), but this guy guy got demanding and insulting so I “Cut him off”, and this triggered even more demands and hate from this vial liberal.
BTW, I know his views based on statements by him, and research of him on the internet.

Here are just a few quotes from this vial/hateful liberal (he even attacked my family):
” my best suggestion to you would be……don’t have a large family if you cannot afford a bigger house”
“I could care less whether or not you make a profit on any particular transaction.”
“I have a life, as for you…..get a life!”

Interesting how I am to “get a life” when he was the one constantly demanding free help and more from me!! Typical hateful Occupier mentality!

A few Subjective Observations based on these and much of what I have seen/witnessed in life

  • With the most Narcissistic President in history along with places such as Twitter and Facebook that also champion Narcissism, I believe this to be expected.

    See: List of Obama Failures

  • Dishonest News Media.
    This same media has been able to convince many that Democrats are for the “working man” well this could not be any further from the truth other than “country Club Republicans (RINOs) also are not at all for the working man either.
    Democrat leaders seem to be only for those who blame others for their problems work the “working union man”, while Libertarians seem to think everyone is out to get them.

    As well the news media has done a good job of ignoring the facts of who the true major political contributors are, with the result being most in America falsely believe the Republicans receive the top contributions.
    See: Democrats Receive 89 Percent of Donations Made by Four Top Political Donors

  • Occupy Movement; that amount of disinformation that persons believe from this mob (mostly of thugs, but sadly made of up many “good persons” that are so woefully unwise as to the facts of business finance and much more about life and believe anything the left leaning media tells them)
  • YouTube; there is probably no more better forum for sleaze other the owner of YouTube; GOOGLE which is a corporation that would not know honestly if it hit them in the face with their rampant plagiarism of small businesses and small entrepreneurs.
    See: Google Lies, Dishonesty, Plagiarism; Adsense, Adwords & Google Search Fail

    Facebook owner Mark Zuckerberg, is another example of a condescending narcissist

  • The education system itself which although many will disagree, it is over paid in my view based on “market value” of the work they do.
    Tenure is the primary evil as I have seen the good teachers that were not tenured let go at our local schools
    As well, going back to my school days I had a downright evil teacher put me down in class in the 4th grade only to have this ridicule follow me to my High School Graduation. She should never been allowed to teach and had she worked in the private sector she would have been fired immediately.

This are just a few opinions of mine, others may draw different conclusions, however the facts noted earlier speak for themselves

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FedEx Claims & Mishandling, Technical Support

May 25, 2011

 Fedex Claims Sucks, Customer Service Dishonest, mishandling, DHL, UPS


Updated 7/30/15


Update July 2015

We finally had enough of FedEx as our shipper for our Internet business.
We found out they were charging higher BASE rates, and most importantly their claims & billing department hit a new low for honesty and lack of integrity.

We had a sudden upsurge in breakage of the UV filters in late spring 2015 and other products we sell and ship via FedEx.

In particular is the TMC UV Sterilizer. As a little background these have been shipped by common carrier from the UK to Los Angeles then to our Grants Pass OR location via UPS for 10 years now without one breakage even though only packed in a box with no other packing material (1000s have now arrived here via this method).
We test each unit for defects and then repack with added bubble wrap in the product box, added bubble wrap around the product box, followed by a shipping box.
What is even more noteworthy is that just the other day while taking new pictures, we accidentally dropped one of these UV Filters from a table 4 feet to the concrete floor, without any box or any other protection and THERE WAS NO BREAKAGE!!!

So when FedEx manages to break this item, we know that SEVERE abuse has occurred by one of their disrespectful gorillas.
But this is not my complaint as bad apples happen in any business, the problem is when their RUDE Claims department refuses to honor a claim, mind you all we asked for was the cost to cover parts to fix the item, not the full replacement cost which frankly they should pay when time and our customers satisfaction is considered!

We finally gave up on their claims department since we decided to switch to UPS due to this constant problem of breakage, but we did dispute their billing department to pay the delivery fee.
Once again, the dishonesty of FedEx came shining through with the Billing claiming they honored their side of the contract by delivering the package.

If you are even considering using FedEx, PLEASE RECONSIDER!!
Their lack of integrity is unfathomable and not worth anyone’s time!


We had a Monday in early May of 2011 where at least 5 packages were damaged. We resolved 3 of these on our own (at our cost both in time and product repair cost), in fact one of these had the box severely damaged yet the product was in usable condition, so the customer told us he was “good” with it.
This resulted in us only filing claims on two packages that also had declared value placed on them. I should point out that we have shipped literally over 1000 of these UV Sterilizers and even more noteworthy on the particular UV Sterilizer in question, we un-box and the re-box with layers of bubble wrap, THEN another couple of layers of bubble wrap outside the main box before adding another box over this.
This particular UV Sterilizer is shipped to us form the UK with only the outer cardboard box and to this date only one has arrived broken.

Further UV Sterilizer Reference:

However attempting to get FedEx to honor this claim, you would think WE committed murder with every excuse being used and disinformation, and lying the standard of the day. I once had a car accident that was my fault and I was treated vastly better than this, yet this was clearly FedEx mishandling.
If FedEx had any integrity in their claims department, they would fire half the staff to start with, then also look into how much a business ships versus their claims percentage. FedEx would quickly realize that we make only 2-3 claims (usually low dollar) versus $40,000 plus in shipping (up to this point it comes to .005 in dollar value of claims versus shipping expenditures with FedEx)

Another silly aspect of FedEx claims is why bother placing declared value on an item if FedEx is going to find every excuse to not pay for their own mishandling. Just on this one UV Sterilizer alone we have paid about $1500 in these fees (not all the sterilizers or other products that we add declared value), this is well above all claims for every item ever shipped and damaged by FedEx in 6 years of using their services. This logic of FedEx’s claims department is just incredible IMO!

Here is a list of Reasons FedEx lacks any integrity/honesty in their claims department:

  1. Asking for information then changing the rules and asking for more but then only when contacted by the FedEx customer. Providing a completely different answer depending upon who you speak with. Basically; LYING!!
  2. (Similar to above) Lack of communication/ability to contact the FedEx customer when further information is necessary.
    Even when contacted few calls are ever returned, even from upper management!
  3. Looking for any loop hole to disqualify a claim (Basically; no integrity!!)
  4. Ignoring the statistical facts
  5. Ignoring Customer Shipping History (come on FedEx; .005% claims versus amount spent with FedEx certainly shows our ability to pack well, especially considering 70% of our shipments are fragile)
  6. Treating customers that have spent Thousands of $$ like criminals
  7. The scam that is declared value

I will also point out in dealing with FedEx’ Technical department, while not as dishonest, they are rather condescending with little interest in providing the businesses such as ours what would improve our business efficiency (such as a usable and reasonably sized Address book and ability to cross use this between our employee sub accounts).
There is more, but I will leave it at that as we have come to learn to deal with this aspect of FedEx shipping and could “live with it” if it were not for the extreme lack of integrity of their claims department especially Debbie (beside being clearly in the wrong line of work, she cannot accept any responsibility for hers or her companies actions).

In fact Debbie kept attempting to call this a UV Bulb when it is more better defined as a UV Filter that has a bulb inside it, this was her dishonest attempt to use legal fine print to get out of paying a claim that was clearly the fault of FedEx. This attempt to mislabel this product was ludicrous and the same as attempting to get out of paying for a damaged laptop computer based on LCD “lights” and similar that are part of the computer.

UVC Bulb Reference:

Updated 9/30/11
In another case a package with lights and an aluminum reflector, FedEx dropped something heavy on this box, crushing the neck of this reflector.
The dishonest claims person never made any attempt to contact us with any questions (which is typical) & denied the claim based on e a picture where the customer attempted to put together the shipping box, leaving the bubble wrap to the side (which she lied about as we and others looking at this picture could clearly see).
This FedEx employee cited paper as the reason for denial, ignoring the stated fact that this box had bubble wrap and layers of card board over this neck. She also ignored the fact that we have shipped literally 100s this way (and so does our distributor, MINUS the bubble wrap!!).

Her manager had the condescending audacity to state we should contact a department at FedEx to learn how to correctly pack.
WHAT? In fact I and our shipping manager have been working in shipping together for over 8 years, including a couple years at Candy Factory where we listened to this same lame story from another FedEx employee.
In that case in 2004, we stopped using paper as a spacer and instead substituted styro peanuts as was suggested in this recent case. The result you might ask? The candy shifted much more resulted in this high end candy looking very scuffed and resulting in many un-salable boxes. In the end we went back to paper.
This is not to say we do not use styro peanuts as these are great for single light bulbs which we wrap in bubble surrounded by peanuts and whip 100s per month with only very rare breakages, but with larger items we have found using bubble wrap around the items, followed by cardboard dividers and paper to fill the gaps and finally extra layers of cardboard works quite well, but to FedEx this is a way to deny a claim which is ludicrous at best and dishonest at worst

In summary; as I noted FedEx has a lot to offer a small business that needs reliable reasonably priced shipping, as well our account manager (Trevor) is awesome (& hopefully if any reader either has a FedEx account or is getting one is lucky enough to have a good FedEx representative).
I will also point out another positive is Sharon at the Atlanta CAT (CAT stands for Customer Advocacy Team if I am correct); was VERY polite and understanding, so my hats off to her too.

However if you use FedEx as a shipper or are thinking of using FedEx and your items are even remotely fragile (assuming you package very well too I might add), I would recommend taking a step back and re-considering the cost of the time to package (the item I referred to we spend almost 40 minutes re-packaging, only for FedEx to make every attempt to not take responsibility for their poor handling in this incident), the cost of your time in dealing with FedEx (we have lost over 8 man hours from this one bad day of shipping by FedEx), and simply the aggravation of dealing with persons with absolutely no integrity to do the “right thing”.